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My Infographic Resume

2012-01-27T05:42:00.000-06:00

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Certified Merger & Acquisition Advisor® Credentialing Program | Pepperdine University | Graziadio School of Business and Management

2012-01-25T16:51:00.000-06:00

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Certified Merger & Acquisition Advisor® Credentialing Program | Pepperdine University | Graziadio School of Business and Management

Google+ Hangouts: Six Practical Uses for Online Education by Jeremy Vest : Learning Solutions Magazine | Diigo

2012-01-23T10:56:00.000-06:00

Google+ Hangouts: Six Practical Uses for Online Education by Jeremy Vest : Learning Solutions Magazine | Diigo

Roots of Collective Leadership

2012-01-12T07:11:00.000-06:00

Roots of Collective Leadership:

Next Tuesday, my colleague Gibran Rivera and I are excited to lead a webinar hosted by our friends at the Leadership Learning Community called “If You Till It They Will Come: Nurturing Collective Leadership.” The above slide is a bit of a sneak peak, and certainly one of the headier, nonetheless important, elements we will cover. The idea behind this graphic comes from the work of Carol Sanford, who has highlighted the fact that our leadership and change methodologies are always grounded in an underlying belief system about what we hold to be true about the world and humanity. Not being aware of or transparent about this can get us into difficulty when we are mixing and matching techniques/methods that may contradict one another, or when we are not operating from the same system of beliefs as others. So here is how we are tracing the roots of our approach to cultivating collective leadership for social change:

Epistemology – Epistemology speaks to how we know what we know. Underlying our approach to collective leadership is the belief that there are multiple ways of knowing, not just cerebral, analytical, or intellectual. In addition, we can know about the world and humanity in more intuitive, affective, kinetic, and “spiritual” ways.

Cosmology – Our view is that the universe is evolving, engaged in ongoing emergence of new form and function. We look to complex living systems and networks as being the underlying dynamic of our reality.

Ontology – In keeping with our cosmological view, our understanding of the nature of human being is that it is dynamic and developmental. We are human beings and becomings. We can learn and unlearn, acquire new capacities, and self-organize to create and innovate.

Technology/Methodology – Our operating methaphor for cultivating collective leadership for change is “gardening” (rather than field generaling), and perhaps more specifically Permaculture gardening. We look to as set of practices that intentionality create the conditions (till the soil) for collective leadership to emerge and that feed its development, while humbly acknowledging that we cannot predict everything that will ensue.

From this foundation, we will offer our additional thoughts about a framework that can help to organize our thinking, approach, and tools to unleashing collective intelligence and effort.

Creativity & Collaboration in the Academy: Warren Bennis on How Leaders ...

2012-01-11T17:24:00.000-06:00

2011 in review and outlook for 2012

2012-01-11T14:27:00.000-06:00

2011 in review and outlook for 2012

Restructuring Capitalism

2012-01-05T05:09:00.000-06:00

Restructuring Capitalism

Meaningful Work

2011-12-30T05:21:00.000-06:00

E L S U A ~ A KM Blog Thinking Outside The Inbox by Luis Suarez » The Future of High-Performance Work Systems – Towards Meaningful Work

Innovation Excellence | Dan Pink – Getting to Mastery

2011-12-30T04:47:00.000-06:00

Innovation Excellence Dan Pink – Getting to Mastery

Cultivating Strong Online Relationships To Build An Ever Ready Troop Of Evangelists

2011-12-28T06:37:00.000-06:00

Cultivating Strong Online Relationships To Build An Ever Ready Troop Of Evangelists:

It’s important to build your network before you need it!

Building a network of organization supporters who can do a variety of things at a moment’s notice is imperative in today’s socially networked world.

Transactions Versus Relationships

Unfortunately, many organizations struggle with relationship building. Instead, they are masters of the transaction. Their emphasis on transactions is often at the expense of cultivating relationships.

Successful organizations are integrating relationship building with their traditional transactional processes. They understand that cultivating strong online relationships leads to customer loyalty.

Tips For Building Online Relationships

It takes constancy and practice to cultivate an online relationship. Ultimately, organizations want to build relationships to help others move from awareness to action.

Here are several tips to help foster online relationships.

1. Go Ahead And Lose Control!

Yes, losing control is more important than trying to obtain it. Did you ever really have the control?

In the digital world, the power has shifted from organizations to people. That’s a good thing, especially for organizations that want to connect as many people possible to their mission and cause.

Here’s the reality. Spending time trying to control what other people do and say is counterproductive. People in social networks will continue to march to their own drum.

2. Invest In Karma Banking

CauseWired author Tom Watson coined the phrase karma banking. Karma banking is sending and sharing good things with others without expecting an immediate return. It’s fostering long term social capital and building relationships.

By its very nature, social media pulls news, conversations and activity away from organizations and into networks. This is the exact opposite of what many organizations try to do by being the sole source of information.

The highest compliment an organization can receive is “You’re a great sharer.” That’s better than you’re a hoarder of information.

Watson says that karma banking has a boomerang effect. When an organization needs support in the future, they can turn to their storehouse of trusted online relationships.

3. Wear Rose Colored Glasses For Your Relationships

The foundation for cultivating strong online relationships is the belief that people are good, sincere and trustworthy. At their very core, people want to help.

Organizational leadership needs to adopt an attitude that people are naturally good and helpful. Showing some humility and being able to ask their networks for help actually strengthens their relationships.

4. Don’t Fondle The Hammer, Foster The Friendship

Social media tools cannot start a relationship. Only people can.

Don’t get enamored with the social technology tools at the expense of the relationship. The tools are devices that can support communications and connections.

A one-size-fits-all friendship doesn’t work. Long term friends have a different level of connectedness than a new Facebook friend. Yet both have value.

Don’t judge your online relationships by their time involved with your organization. If their personal circumstances don’t allow them to engage, let them know you’ll be there when their ready.

Building Trust

Many social networks have their own rhythms and ebb and flow. It’s not something an organization can control, dictate or manipulate.

Sometimes those networks have a low level of activity. Sometimes they require more nurturing.

The important thing to remember is that while the organization is engaging in networking, it is also building trust and rapport.

How does your organization recognize influencers on social media spaces who care about your organization and its issues? What are some ways your organization communicates in social media?

Eight Reasons Why Data-Centricity Is The Future Of Business - Dion Hinchcliffe's Next-Generation Enterprises

2011-12-23T08:12:00.000-06:00

Eight Reasons Why Data-Centricity Is The Future Of Business - Dion Hinchcliffe's Next-Generation Enterprises

Annual M&A Middle Market Thought Leader Award - Grant Thornton LLP

2011-12-20T14:54:00.000-06:00

Five Finalists Named for Annual M&A Middle Market Thought Leader Award - Grant Thornton LLP

Average Is Over. What's Your Extra? - Bill Taylor - Harvard Business Review

2011-12-20T05:25:00.000-06:00

Average Is Over. What's Your Extra? - Bill Taylor - Harvard Business Review

Credentialing Program | Pepperdine University | Graziadio School of Business and Management

2011-12-20T03:06:00.000-06:00

Certified Merger & Acquisition Advisor® Credentialing Program | Pepperdine University | Graziadio School of Business and Management

100 Things Every American Should Know About The Current State Of The US Economy

2011-12-18T08:06:00.000-06:00

100 Things Every American Should Know About The Current State Of The US Economy

Join us to start 2012

2011-12-16T11:35:00.000-06:00

Collaborating For Success | A Winning Bet in 2012

Mantra Hotel - 041_A few moments in Melbourne

2011-12-03T06:19:00.001-06:00

Mantra Hotel - 041_A few moments in Melbourne, a photo by Gary Hayes on Flickr.

Freedom of Knowledge

2011-11-30T04:38:00.000-06:00

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Rubik Apps

2011-11-14T06:20:00.001-06:00

Rubik Apps, a photo by César Poyatos on Flickr.

IBM THINK Forum | Thomas Friedman says we are all new immigrants to a hyperconnected world - YouTube

2011-11-13T06:50:00.000-06:00

IBM THINK Forum | Thomas Friedman says we are all new immigrants to a hyperconnected world - YouTube: ""

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Rally to Make Crowdfund Investing Legal -- IndieGoGo

2011-11-05T08:20:00.000-06:00

Rally to Make Crowdfund Investing Legal -- IndieGoGo

Future of Work Is Learning

2011-11-04T04:07:00.000-06:00

E L S U A ~ A KM Blog Thinking Outside The Inbox by Luis Suarez » The Future of Work Is Learning

Want Lasting Business Change? Leave the Tools on the Shelf by Robin Barnwell

2011-11-04T04:03:00.000-06:00

Want Lasting Business Change? Leave the Tools on the Shelf by Robin Barnwell

So the skills & training to understand people and their behaviour and influence them to change is absent from the approach. But in a services business it’s the single most important factor for delivering lasting change. Lasting change does not happen overnight it’s a hard slog. It starts with connecting with people, understanding them, seeing things from their point of view. Look to set in place the four things you need for people to change:

A compelling reason to change – it’s got to make sense
A clear direction agreed – people need to shape and agree the outcome
The resources to do the job – you can’t just be another item on an increased to-do list
Clear and actionable next steps - people need to know where to begin

Plan to join 500 of us in las Vegas, 1-17-12

2011-11-03T08:59:00.000-06:00

The M&A Connection: Who Comes to the AM&AA Conferences?: These Companies Have Attended Past Conferences! #winterbet2012 A.J.D Holding Company mbco strategy and investment consulting Abacus...

The M&A Connection: Who Comes to the AM&AA Conferences?

2011-10-29T11:43:00.000-06:00

The M&A Connection: Who Comes to the AM&AA Conferences?: These Companies Have Attended Past Conferences! #winterbet2012 A.J.D Holding Company mbco strategy and investment consulting Abacus...

Great quotes about Learning and Change

2011-10-26T04:35:00.001-06:00

Great quotes about Learning and Change, a group on Flickr.

OpenScout :: filtered search

2011-10-25T06:04:00.000-06:00

OpenScout :: filtered search:

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Move Forward with 21st Century Skills

2011-10-22T14:59:00.000-06:00

Distance Education Forward Thinking | Diigo

How Will You Measure Your Life? - Harvard Business Review

2011-10-22T05:21:00.000-06:00

How Will You Measure Your Life? - Harvard Business Review

Community Management Scenario Map

2011-10-17T18:59:00.001-06:00

Community Management Scenario Map, a photo by David Armano on Flickr.

(Infographic) CEO Confidence: A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words

2011-10-06T10:51:00.000-06:00

(Infographic) CEO Confidence: A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words

PLE, Do it Yourself and Education and the assumptions behind | Learner Weblog | Diigo

2011-10-02T20:47:00.000-06:00

PLE, Do it Yourself and Education and the assumptions behind | Learner Weblog | Diigo

Home: The Original Change Management Toolbook (The Change Handbook)

2011-10-01T07:20:00.000-06:00

Home: The Original Change Management Toolbook (The Change Handbook)

Join us for this conference September 27-30 in Washington

2011-09-22T09:30:00.000-06:00

Alliance of Merger & Acquisition Advisors (AM&AA) to Participate in the 29th Annual National Minority Enterprise Development Week Conference September 27-30 in Washington

Wall Street Protests and America's Choice - James Allworth - Harvard Business Review

2011-09-22T05:29:00.000-06:00

The Wall Street Protests and America's Choice - James Allworth - Harvard Business Review

SURVEY RESULTS: Tough Times Reshape Client Expectations – CPA Trendlines

2011-09-21T09:49:00.000-06:00

SURVEY RESULTS: Tough Times Reshape Client Expectations – CPA Trendlines

The Pieces and Parts: The Social Business Stack

2011-09-14T05:33:00.001-06:00

The Pieces and Parts: The Social Business Stack, a photo by Dion Hinchcliffe on Flickr.

edtechpost - PLE Diagrams

2011-09-13T05:09:00.000-06:00

edtechpost - PLE Diagrams

Nielsen: Social Media Report

2011-09-13T04:13:00.000-06:00

Nielsen: Social Media Report

Companies Must Ascend the Social Business Hierarchy of Needs

2011-09-10T06:49:00.001-06:00

Companies Must Ascend the Social Business Hierarchy of Needs, a photo by jeremiah_owyang on Flickr.

The Technium: Why the Impossible Happens More Often

2011-09-06T05:08:00.000-06:00

The Technium: Why the Impossible Happens More Often

Nic's Insights - Communities at Work: E-learning – E is for Ellie!

2011-09-03T08:03:00.000-06:00

Nic's Insights - Communities at Work: E-learning – E is for Ellie!: Elephant that is! 1997 in the Serengeti National Park, Tanzania and our guide pulls our Land Rover up close to a small group of elephants...

New Ways

2011-09-03T06:19:00.000-06:00

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My Library

2011-09-02T05:50:00.000-06:00

My Library:

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midmarketplace's Personal Stream

2011-08-30T06:04:00.000-06:00

All Headlines - midmarketplace's Personal Stream - Eqentia

Our Story AM&AA 2011

2011-08-28T08:04:00.000-06:00

Invest in Yourself: CM&AA® Credentialing Program | Pepperdine University | Graziadio School of Business and Management

2011-08-25T14:22:00.000-06:00

Certified Merger & Acquisition Advisor® Credentialing Program | Pepperdine University | Graziadio School of Business and Management

Join us in October

2011-08-24T10:19:00.000-06:00

Northern California Events | Alumni | Pepperdine University | Graziadio School of Business and Management

Join us in September 27-30 in Washington

2011-08-24T09:50:00.000-06:00

Alliance of Merger & Acquisition Advisors (AM&AA) to Participate in the 29th Annual National Minority Enterprise Development Week Conference September 27-30 in Washington

Join us for this special M&A Training program

2011-08-23T09:47:00.000-06:00

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Ladder of Engagement Version

2011-08-20T14:11:00.001-06:00

Ladder of Engagement Version, a photo by cambodia4kidsorg on Flickr.

1001 rules for my unborn son

2011-08-20T06:51:00.000-06:00

1001 rules for my unborn son

Great Infographic "Blended Learning: A Disruptive Innovation" by Knewton | Diigo

2011-08-20T06:43:00.000-06:00

Great Infographic "Blended Learning: A Disruptive Innovation" by Knewton | Diigo

Grant Thornton Present Middle-Market Thought-Leader Award

2011-08-17T09:24:00.001-06:00

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The Smart Worker : relies on a trusted network of friends and colleagues

2011-08-09T07:58:00.000-06:00

The Smart Worker : relies on a trusted network of friends and colleagues

The Smart Worker : learns continuously with social media

2011-08-09T05:56:00.000-06:00

The Smart Worker : learns continuously with social media: "

In the first of my blog posts on helping L&D department move forward, I want to focus on how we can help others learn continuously using social media.

As I have mentioned in a number of places, L&D just won’t be able to provide everything that their people will need to do their jobs, and as Conrad Gottfredson in an article in Learning Solutions magazine, The other side of learning: performance is everything explains

“today’s work environment doesn’t tolerate learners stepping out of their workflow to learn unless it is absolutely vital to do so. And the actual nature of 21st century learners is resistant to learning options that are delayed and removed from the here and now.”

So, an important part of L&D’s new role will be encouraging and supporting a more self-directed and self-reliant approach to continuous learning as people do their jobs; and this is where social media can play a huge part.

For me, social media provides the key tools and networks for my own personal/professional development and productivity, and was one of the reasons why I created the “resource”: How to use social media to work and learn smarter – in 30 days.

I have now offered this “resource” in a number of incarnations, most recently as an online social activity on my Share&Learn collaboration platform.

Essentially it covers 4 main areas:

1 – Finding and using content on the Social Web

2 – Creating and sharing content

3 – Joining and building networks and communities

4 – Improving productivity

The next online social activity takes place 29 August – 7 October 2011. There are 100 free places. If you’d like to join up, you can find out more about the activity here: How to use social media to work and learn smarter.

2 - The Smart Worker : needs immediate access to solutions to performance problems

3 – The Smart Worker : needs job aids rather than courses

4 – The Smart Worker : shares what s/he learns

5 - The Smart Worker : relies on a trusted network of friends and colleagues

Conscious Startups • Being a Conscious Startup

2011-08-07T07:47:00.000-06:00

Conscious Startups • Being a Conscious Startup

Boston consulting group unleashing the potential of technology in e...

2011-08-06T04:12:00.000-06:00

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Boston consulting group unleashing the potential of technology in education

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US mid-market companies positioned to ride crest of export wave - FT.com

2011-08-04T04:22:00.000-06:00

US mid-market companies positioned to ride crest of export wave - FT.com

Keith Yamashita: Change, to the Power of Ten | Business Innovation Factory

2011-08-01T06:13:00.000-06:00

Keith Yamashita: Change, to the Power of Ten | Business Innovation Factory

Scoop.it

2011-07-31T11:30:00.000-06:00

Scoop.it

Ladder of Engagement Version

2011-07-25T15:33:00.001-06:00

Ladder of Engagement Version, a photo by cambodia4kidsorg on Flickr.

The MidMarket Place Daily

2011-07-23T06:22:00.000-06:00

The MidMarket Place Daily

29 life lessons learned in travelling the world for 8 years straight

2011-07-17T11:57:00.000-06:00

29 life lessons learned in travelling the world for 8 years straight: "

Eight years.

That’s 416 weeks, or almost 3,000 days.

This is the amount of time that I have not had a fixed home; moving to a new country, culture and language every few months and taking absolutely everything I own with me. It has been a significant percentage of my life, and it’s still long from over.

I had actually done some travelling before - a couple of summers in the states, and an entire month already in Spain. But about this time back in 2003, on the week of my 21st birthday, I left Ireland for good. I had graduated university a few days before, and knew that I’d only be coming back “home” for visits (I’ve never once missed the family Christmas dinner). But it’s not really my home any more. Since then, “wherever I lay my hat, that’s my home”.

After devoting my life to them, university and schools had taught me nothing of any real importance. I had gone through as many books as I could and thought I knew it all, but the fact of the matter is that I have become the person I was meant to be in the last 4/5 of a decade, while on the road. And I certainly still have a lot left to learn.

[Edit: People keep asking me how I can afford a travel lifestyle for so long, or if I'm rich or if my parents paid for everything. I paid for the entire trip myself, starting with no money saved up; I can assure you my lifestyle is way cheaper than most settled people who prove observation #10 and need so much money to buy rubbish!

You don't need to be rich to travel the world. To find out more about me and my story, please read my site's About page to see a list of the many jobs I've had during my travels. For just the last one year I've been earning money by helping people to hack languages quicker.]

Since yesterday was my 29th birthday and this week is my 8 year “travelversary”, I thought it fitting to share 29 of these revelations with you of things that I have learned on this journey. Many of them are about life in general, but these are actually my observations after meeting many people from all over the world:

1. Everyone everywhere basically wants the same thing

Vastly different as the world’s cultures are, if you speak to Italian millionaires, homeless Brazilians, Dutch fishermen and Filipino computer programmers, in their own languages, you start to see that we are all incredibly alike where it matters.

Everyone just wants validation, love, security, enjoyment and hopes for a better future. The way they verbalise this and work towards it is where things branch off, but we all have the same basic desires. You can relate to everyone in the world if you look past the superficial things that separate you.

2. Deferring your happiness to the future is a terrible idea

Too many people presume that when they have that one thing they can work towards for years then “everything will be alright”.

This is delusional.

When you get it, there’ll be something else missing in your life. I fundamentally believe that long-term pure happiness from one particular situation or achievement is a pipe-dream, but we can learn to be content with what we have, live in the now, all while enjoying the progress and changes we are making.

If your whole life is working up towards one really big major goal that you hold on to for years, then you will have a major anticlimax after the dust settles. Work towards it, but stop deferring your happiness.

Get there slower and enjoy the ride. I like how it is portrayed in this video:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERbvKrH-GC4

Enjoy the show, and don’t wait for the finale. A song I really like (in Spanish) reminds me that the present really is all we have.

3. “Someday my ship will come in” is bullshit. You will NEVER win the lottery. Be practical.

People seem to have a strange concept of how luck works and how the universe/some diety/karma/their lucky shoe or how “they deserve it” will mean that things will eventually fall into place for them. You are “due” to win the lottery or will get swept away by prince charming any day now. “You deserve it” (as if others don’t).

This is a misunderstanding of how the world actually works. Perhaps I’m wrong and praying or hoping that it will all work out, or generally being a nice person is what really “does the trick”, but why not actually get off your ass and do something tangible too while you’re at it.

I personally don’t believe in magic or fairies or astrology or sky wizards or large-scale invisible inexplicable forces at work on petty daily activities of humans. I’m sceptical about such things, and believe they are all impossible/ridiculous, and knowledge of this has enriched my life. As a practical person, I see the world as a very logical place with physical and social rules and understanding this has helped me live well in it.

The universe owes you nothing, you owe it to yourself to be the master of where your life ends up.

4. There’s no such thing as destiny. This is excellent news!

Destiny is used as a cop-out and standard excuse by most people for why they don’t do something with their lives. The thing is, it doesn’t exist.

Your limitations are not set by who you know, where you were born, what genes you have, how much money you have, how old you are right now, what you did before or other things that you can claim are your stamp of failure for life.

If you are determined enough there is a shitload of opportunities in life that are totally achievable with minimal cash, regardless of who you are.

5. Seek out people with different beliefs and views of the world to yours and get to know their side of the story

As you can probably guess from #3, I have some beliefs about the world that don’t jive with a lot of people’s. However, a lot of people get their meaning in life from believing in things I don’t. If everyone thought like me, the world would be a very boring place.

So when I meet someone with a very different belief system to mine, it’s better to get along than to try to “convert” them. This is as true for how the world works as it is for language learning methods, fashion, movie tastes etc.

When someone is sure about something and has believed it for many many years, then you cannot convince them with a few cleverly picked words. Everyone is closed minded about something, including me. They have to discover it themselves over time or just continue believing what they do. Don’t take responsibility for convincing the world you are right. It’s important to acknowledge that maybe you are actually the wrong one.

The world is much more fun with people of varying interests and beliefs. Despite my scepticism, in my travels I have hung out with astrologists, palm readers, very religious folk, conservatives, and people who hate technology. And my life and experiences are enriched so much because of it.

Spending time exclusively with people who agree with you on everything would never challenge you and allow you to learn so much more.

6. Living a good life is the best way possible to convince people

Enough words and enough arguing. Just live by example and soon you’ll have people on your side when they see your results and how passionate you are. No need to “convince” them. Just show them that you are there, tell them how you got there, and they will start to realise that maybe you aren’t that crazy after all.

7. Nobody has it all figured out

Almost everyone has problems and puts on a brave face - don’t presume they have it easy. You see of each person what they let you see. You have no idea what they are going through or what they had to put up with to be in a situation that you can consider “easy”.

This is universal - millionaires, students, the cool kid, the party animal, the introvert and everyone in between has more to their story than the superficial restricted one you see. Never dismiss them as having it easy if you don’t know the entire story.

8. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know”

There is a stigmatism in some cultures to admit ignorance about a particular topic. Don’t dance around the issue - just say I don’t know. Honesty is way smarter.

9. More money will NEVER solve your problems

As long as you are not living in the street or going hungry, then you do not “need” more money. When you spend enough time with people who are actually living on next to nothing, but having a full life, then you will truly understand this. Everything that is wonderful about life doesn’t cost a penny, and the rest is way cheaper than you think it is.

10. Possessions own you

Look at the real reason you want to buy more expensive crap and realise that it all comes down to validation from others in one way or another. You don’t really need any of it unless it’s directly related to essentials in how you work or survive.

The need to buy new crap dictates your life - it fixes you in one location with that house and furniture, and it governs how much money you need to earn. And it almost never actually enriches your life in any way. The less you own the better.

11. TV is the greatest black hole of time available to mankind

I wasted so much of my life before age 21 spending 3-4 hours a day watching TV. Following shows that I “had” to see, in order to “relax”. I regret almost every second of it. The whole world was passing me by outside.

TV was an important part of the 20st century, bringing communication and news to the masses, but now it’s wasteful. People get biased news through it, when much better alternatives are available, watch terrible TV shows through it that teach them nothing, and it sucks so many hours of their lives away that they seem to forget about when they delude themselves into thinking that they don’t have time to pursue real passions in life.

TVs encourage people to be antisocial. The only TVs you should be watching are someone else’s - go to your friend’s house to share a series you like if you must, or go to the bar with your mates to watch sports. Your life will not be enriched by sitting at home watching a screen with zero interactivity to it.

12. The Internet is the greatest tool ever available to us, but daily use must be capped

Unlike TVs, the Internet is interactive and allows you to take part and become virtually social. It connects communities all over the world and without it, the last 8 years simply would have been much more difficult for me for many reasons.

Having said that, it has the same potential as TV to become a black hole of time. Use it to enrich your life, but put a cap on how much you use it so you can get out and live that life. Replacing one screen with another (even when you use it to chat to people) is just escaping the real world, which is much more beautiful.

13. Get outside and do something with other people

My favourite website in the world is Couchsurfing.org, precisely because I spend so little time on it. It has simplified my travel life tremendously by allowing me to host people to maintain my languages, and to search it for interesting people to meet up with.

The world that is worth experiencing is not in books or on TV or computer screens. It’s with other human beings. Stop being shy and get out and meet them!

14. Speaking only English is incredibly limiting to non-tourist travellers

If you are visiting a country for a weekend, then you can check into your hotel and order food in an expensive restaurant and get a guided tour in English. You can even make local university educated friends, and successfully create a bubble to protect you from the local language for as long as you like, and delude yourself into thinking that this is the way things are.

But you will never truly experience the local culture if you limit yourself to being able to interact on a deep level just the well educated part of it. English-speaking travellers miss out on so much - not speaking English has defined most of my travels and the amazing experiences I have had would have been impossible if I didn’t try to learn the local languages.

ANYONE can learn a language. When I was 21 I thought I couldn’t do it, but one day I put all the bullshit excuses to one side and just spoke it. Speaking a language from day one is the ‘secret’ to being able to learn it quicker and at any age.

15. Modern foreign culture does not have to satisfy your stereotypes

Every country in the world is modernising but this does not mean that they are westernising or Americanising. What makes them unique does not have to satisfy your “quaint” tourist-brochure view of them. Leave ignorant stereotypes aside and have an open mind about how modern life is like in that culture.

Not all Irish people drink, not all Brazilians samba and play football, and Germans, Dutch, Filipinos and everyone else will surprise you if you leave your presumptions about them at the airport.

Respect the differences, try to adapt to them yourself and realise that to them you might seem backwards in many ways.

16. Take your time

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from living in countries that are more “easy going” it’s that they are way wiser than the rest of us in their pace of life. People and countries that do everything quicker also do it worse. Take it easy and go slowly.

Enjoy every bite of food, walk at a slow pace and take in your surroundings, let the other person finish their side of the conversation while you listen attentively, and stop in the middle of your day, close your eyes or look at nature and become aware of your breathing.

17. You can’t please everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” - Bill Cosby.

State your opinion and stick to your guns. If you are confident enough and share your idea with enough people, you will piss off someone no matter what you talk about. That’s their problem, not yours.

18. Trying to be cool or following trends is for mindless sheep

Peer pressure is for people who are afraid of their individuality. Stand up for yourself, and go against the flow if that’s what you feel is best. What’s cool now will be frozen over in a few years.

19. Make mistakes - and LOTS of them!

Mistakes are how we learn. Failures are the stepping stones to success.

20. Wear sunscreen

Seriously. Protect your skin. Follow that and all other advice in this video:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXMsQ

21. Stop thinking so much and act

People think their way out of doing everything that’s worth doing in life. The reason I feel I’m getting so much done in the last years is precisely because of how much time I give to over-analysing whether I should do something important or not: None.

22. Dance and sing whenever possible

Dancing and singing are great releases and forms of expression. It’s hard not to feel good after a session of either!

23. Making new friends is easy and so is appreciating your current ones

My entire eight years travel has been alone. I arrive in a new nation without a single friend waiting for me in many cases. I have no connections, but I make them anyway. I find a party online and go straight to it and say hi to everyone. Soon, if I try enthusiastically enough, I’ll find people I can socialise with on a regular basis.

If you are friendly, genuine and charming, making friends with people from every culture and background is possible.

When people who are surrounded by family, networks, work and school colleagues, other friends, clubs and communities they are a part of… tell me that it’s hard to meet new people I feel like slapping them in the face to wake them up to the opportunities around them, which I haven’t had consistently for almost a decade. Look around you!

24. You don’t know what you’ve got ’till its gone

Don’t take anything for granted. I couldn’t afford to pay for accommodation one night and had to sleep outside on a rock because of it. Ever since then I appreciate having a bed, couch or hammock, no matter how small or where it may be, because I know what it’s like to not have one. One night was enough to burn it into me - I sigh a breath of relief every time I go to bed now.

I went partially deaf due to an ear infection for two weeks and appreciate my hearing and all the beautiful sounds around me all the more because I got it back. I also gained an appreciation for signed communication that I’d take advantage of several years later.

I’ve never lost anyone close to me, but I hug my family members and tell them I love them every chance I get, and clear any bad air with friends and don’t hold back on sharing my emotions with them. Life is too short - if I lost anything important to me then I want to make sure that I never wasted the time I did have with it or with him or her.

25. Swallow your pride and apologise

Never hold a grudge and never try to win every argument. Sometimes it’s best to let your pride slide for the sake of clearing the air with someone. Be the first to say you’re sorry. Never wait for the other person to make the first move.

26. Doing anything specifically to impress people is stupid

People will never give you the validation you seek if you try to be a dancing monkey for them. Saying how many languages you speak, how rich you are, who you know, where you studied or what you do for a living, or trying to show-off in any other way to get someone to like you, or working for these things just for the bragging rights will leave you really disappointed.

People are impressed by those who aren’t trying to impress them and are comfortable in themselves and social and interesting. Sometimes to be “interesting” all you have to do is be a good listener.

27. People are not alone in being alone

One of the most frequent questions I get asked as a long-term solo traveller is if I feel lonely. The short answer is no. The long answer would require an entire post in itself.

But the fact of the matter is that loneliness is much more common around the world than I previously thought it was. I was actually much more lonely in my university (fixed) life than I am now. And I meet many people who have vast networks of social groups who feel desperately lonely because they feel nobody gets them.

Then others who simply changed their lifestyle in some way (not necessarily by travel, but perhaps marriage or starting a demanding job) and have lost contact with all their childhood friends because of it, also feel lonely.

I’ve talked to many people who are convinced they are the only ones who feel this way. Each time I hear a similar story I can hear the Police in my head “seems I’m not alone in being alone…” Believe it or not I find this very comforting when I am genuinely separated by thousands of kilometres from anyone who even knows what my name is. Even though nobody is in exactly the same situation, the amount of people in the world I’ve met tells me that I’m very likely not the only one in such a situation, even at that very second.

No matter how lonely you might feel, there is always someone who can relate to you. Perhaps you can’t talk to them right now, but they are out there.

28. Love isn’t “all” you need, but if you don’t have it in some form, your life will be very empty

We don’t need love to survive, but without it there will be a huge hole inside you. Make sure that every day you have someone (family, friends, lover) to remind you that you are special. If you postpone this part of your life until later, after you get or do that thing you want to do, you will continue in that lonely path indefinitely.

29. The most important lessons in life can never be expressed in black and white, but must be experienced

I thought I knew it all back in university - and that everything of importance can be found in books. But the truth is that the most important things in life are very hard to put in black and white, including what I’ve said in this post.

When most of the world’s information is at our fingertips, a mouseclick away, it makes it feel like we don’t need to experience any more. Movies, books, or “living vicariously through someone else” means we can apparently get the general gist of anything.

This is false. Experience is the greatest teacher of all. Stop reading about or watching the world passively and start living it.

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